The Golden Child – another victim of the Narcissistic Parent

the golden child

When I was growing up I believed that my family was horrendously unique. I was sure it would be impossible to find another father who acted in as deranged a manner as mine did. It was painfully clear that he hated me and adored my brother, but I simply could not work out why. Then … Read more

The Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences on Puberty

The Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences on Puberty

We are all aware of the long term physical impact of trauma and abuse. I experienced it first hand when I got three slipped discs and had to have surgery just a few weeks after my father passed away. However did you know that experiencing abuse or trauma in childhood also impacts the onset of … Read more

Learning how to Trust and Love after Adverse Childhood Experiences

Learning how to trust and love after adverse childhood experiences

When I was ten years old I met a little girl who was one year younger than I was. You know when they talk about love at first sight? Well, this was something similar. We looked at each other and recognized something in each other’s eyes. At that point in time we were both going … Read more

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and its Implications for Abuse Victims

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

The hierarchy of needs has been used in many fields to explain what motivates people. It is of particular interest in education, for teachers to understand how best to motivate their students.  It is also used by businesses to understand what drives their customers’ behaviour and how best to motivate them to buy their product or service.

Learned Helplessness: Trapped in a Psychological Cage

Learned Helplessness: Trapped in a Psychological Cage

When a person is in an abusive situation they rapidly learn that their situation is hopeless. This belief becomes a constant refrain in their negative self talk, draining them of any hope. Once the conditioning takes root, the victim is no longer able to assess the situation rationally.