Victims of narcissistic abuse are constantly walking on eggshells but cannot quite put their finger on why.
The constant emotional and psychological abuse brainwash the victim, triggering a debilitating cycle of negative self talk and learned helplessness that can outlive the relationship with the narcissist.
The narcissist’s goal is to keep you off balance. Whenever you are in public, with friends or family members, the mask is firmly in place. Their charm camouflages their true nature and everyone is convinced that he or she adores you. But the reality is very different.
Narcissists do not love. Their mission is to bend you to their will and keep you captive, acting as a constant source of narcissistic supply. Whenever you attempt to thwart them their reaction is vicious and their narcissistic rage terrifying. They will stop at nothing to bring you in line.
It is important for victims of narcissistic abuse to trust themselves and their instincts. It might not be possible to explain exactly why and how it is that narcissists mess with our mind, but it is happening nonetheless. If you find yourself questioning your sanity, you need to stop and think.
You are worth more than that. You deserve more than that. Don’t let the narcissist win.
If you find yourself trapped in a relationship with a narcissist, know that it is not your fault. Narcissists are master manipulators and they will do whatever it takes to keep you under their thumb
The most important thing you can do is to trust yourself and your instincts. If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t let the narcissist gaslight you into doubting your own sanity. You are not crazy. The narcissist is.
If you are in an abusive relationship, please reach out for help. There are many hotlines and resources available to assist you. Reach out to your friends, family or a therapist and ask for their help. You deserve to be safe and you deserve to be happy.
For Further Reading:
You might also want to check out the following posts about the different abuse tactics in the Narcissist’s toolbox:
- Abuse by Proxy
- Ambient Abuse
- Coercive Control
- Divide and Conquer
- Flying Monkeys
- Future Faking
- Love Bombing
- Narcissist Discard
- Narcissist Hoovering
- Narcissistic Triangulation
- Narcissistic Abuse
- Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome
- Narcissistic Family Roles
- Narcissistic FOG
- Narcissistic Grooming
- Narcissistic Projection
- Narcissistic Rage
- Narcissistic Smear Campaign
- Narcissistic Word Salad
- Parental Alienation
- 7 Types of Narcissistic Abuse with Practical Examples
- The 10 Stages of Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
- 13 Warning Signs of Narcissistic Abuse: How to Deal with It and Get Help
- Flying Monkeys in the World of Narcissism: What They Are and How to Deal with Them
- Gaslighting Defined – How Can You Tell If Your Partner Is Gaslighting You?
- Why Narcissists String Along their Exes and Never Cut Them Loose
- Understanding the Cycle of Emotional Abuse – The Red Flags of a Toxic Relationship
And finally, this is my story. I was the scapegoat daughter of a narcissistic father.
Disclosure: Please note that some of the links in this post are affiliate links. When you use one of my affiliate links, the company compensates me. At no additional cost to you, I’ll earn a commission, which helps me run this blog and keep my in-depth content free of charge for all my readers.