If you’re dealing with a narcissist, or are in any kind of relationship with one, you know that going no contact is often the best solution. But what if that’s not possible? What if you have to co-parent with them, or see them at work every day?
In this blog post, I will discuss a strategy for when no contact is impossible: going low contact.
If you’re ready to start going low contact, follow these steps below.
Step One: Establish Strong Boundaries
The first step in going low contact is establishing strong boundaries.
These boundaries should be based on what makes you feel safe and comfortable.
They might include things like not allowing the narcissist to criticize or judge you, setting firm limits on how much contact you have, and refusing to engage in heated arguments.
Remember, it’s important to stick to your boundaries no matter what the narcissist does or says.
Step Two: Keep Communication to a Minimum
The next step is to keep communication with the narcissist to a minimum.
This means not giving them any attention or fuel. Try to communicate only when necessary and avoid getting into long conversations with them.
If the narcissist starts to criticize or attack you, shut down the conversation as quickly as possible.
Step Three: Use Strategies such as Grey Rock
If you find that you can’t keep your interaction with the narcissist to a minimum, you can try using strategies such as grey rock.
This involves acting like a blank slate and refusing to give the narcissist any emotional reactions.
This can be difficult, but it’s important to remain calm and unemotional no matter what the narcissist does or says. Remember that your reactions are a source of narcissistic supply, so do not give the narcissist what he or she wants!
Final thoughts re going low contact with a narcissist
If you follow these steps, you’ll be on your way to establishing strong boundaries and regaining your peace of mind by reducing your contact with the narcissist to the bare minimum.
Remember to stay strong and don’t let the narcissist manipulate or control you. Stick to your guns and your Low Contact regime. Stay as far away from the narcissist’s drama as possible.
For Further Reading:
The following are the most potent abusive tactics in the narcissist’s toolbox –
- Abuse by Proxy – How to Identify and Deal with this form of Psychological Abuse
- How to Detect and Escape Ambient Abuse: A Survivor’s Guide
- Divide and Conquer – a strategic way of isolating victims
- The Fauxpology – a devious weapon of the Narcissist
- Future Faking – Narcissists make hollow promises about the future
- Narcissistic Grooming – How Narcissists Brainwash and Condition their Victims
- Love Bombing – The Narcissist’s Trick to Keep You Hooked
- What is Narcissist Discard and what are the signs?
- Narcissist Hoovering – How to Deal With It
- Narcissist Triangulation – What it is, why Narcissists do it, and how to deal with it
- What you need to know about Narcissistic Rage
- Narcissistic Smear Campaign – how to spot it and what to do about it
- Narcissistic Word Salad – one of the tools in the narcissist’s toolbox
- 7 Types of Narcissistic Abuse with Practical Examples
- Narcissistic Abuse – How Narcissists Manipulate and Hurt their Victims
- 13 Warning Signs of Narcissistic Abuse: How to Deal with It and Get Help
- Narcissistic Abuse Examples – How to Recognize the Toxic Signs of Narcissism
- The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle: How to Recognize It and Break Free
- Narcissist Manipulation Tactics: How to Safeguard Yourself from Emotional Abuse
- Jokes or Abuse? When Jokes Cross the Line
- Narcissistic Abuse – The Signs and Why it’s so Damaging
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