If you are an ACoN – an Adult Child of a Narcissist, you know all too well how destructive narcissism can be. This post is for you. Here, you will find support and advice from other adult children of narcissists. I understand what you are going through, and I hope my blog will help.
When I was growing up I believed that my family was horrendously unique. I was sure it would be impossible to find another father who acted in as deranged a manner as mine did. It was painfully clear that he hated me and adored my brother, but I simply could not work out why. Then … Read more
Enablers are often characterized by their unwillingness to set boundaries with the narcissist and their need to please them at all costs. They usually have low self-esteem and feel like they can’t survive without the narcissist in their life.
There are four main roles in narcissistic families – narcissist, enabler, golden child, and scapegoat.
When I was a child I knew that my father did not love me. I could tell that he adored my brother, but as soon as he looked at me his face hardened and his eyes became slits full of hate. Initially I thought it was because I was not enough. Not good enough. Not … Read more
When I first realised that my father was a narcissist and that his personality disorder was the underlying cause of all the inexplicably horrible things that happened to me as a child, I cried tears of relief.