About Carla

Hello, lovely souls,

I’m Carla Corelli, an author and blogger, but more importantly, a survivor who has experienced the insidious and heart wrenching agony of narcissistic abuse.

Raised as the scapegoat in my narcissistic family, I grew up in the shadow of my narcissistic father and his golden child, my brother. So I know all too well the devastating impact that narcissistic abuse can have on a person’s life.

But let me share a glimmer of hope amidst the darkness. Despite the pain and despair, I have found happiness and love.

Yes, it may seem unimaginable, but it is true.

I want you to know that there is a path to healing and reclaiming your life beyond the clutches of a manipulative abuser.

My personal experience with abuse has marked my life. It motivated me to get a degree in psychology, giving me the skills and knowledge I needed to process my past, and gain valuable insights into the nature of trauma and recovery.

In this blog I share the insights I have gained over the years. It is dedicated to all survivors of emotional and psychological abuse, aiming to inspire and guide you on your own path towards healing and triumph over trauma.

But my commitment doesn’t end there. I lead an incredible NGO that focuses on providing assistance to abused children. You see, there were people who uplifted and supported me when I was a child, and now it’s my turn to pay that kindness forward. Together, we can create a world where every child is protected and nurtured.

Always remember that healing takes time. It’s a process filled with ups and downs. Yet, I want you to hold onto the hope that moving forward and rebuilding your life is possible.

We are resilient beings capable of rebuilding ourselves and finding joy once again. Together, we can overcome the ghosts of our past and create a future filled with love, happiness, and inner peace.

To stay connected and receive daily inspiration and encouragement, find me on Twitter @CarlaCorelli, Facebook, LinkedIn, Medium or Youtube. You are also welcome to reach out to me by email.

With unwavering faith in our collective strength, and much love,

Carla

9 thoughts on “About Carla”

  1. I am a 48 year old male, and suffer from a life long narcisstic abuse by my mother (my father passed away in my mid teens).

    In my teenage years she was violent, verbally abusive, mentally abusive, financially abusive. Never hugged, couldnt express any emotion apart from the most toxic words, drank heavily. Since then i have kept her at arms length (moving cities to be away from her) and she moved hemispheres to live in another country for ten years, which was the best without the fear and anxiety it created historically. When she moved back (in advance of this), i had a daily panic attack (ptsd) knowing she was coming here. She has continuously triangulated all my family connections, taken over friend ships, degraded family connections, gossipped about others, and wheasled her way into my life (as i would always try an be accomodating) .

    She is a perpetual liar, and once even faked throwing herself on the floor at a family wedding in my vacinity (to make people think i pushed her over). The most heart wrenching visual trick. The most toxic person i have come across. My life is living hell. Recently i separated from my 20 year relationship, there was definitely narcissistic tendencies there in my ex-wife but not as extreme. My mother has now taken my ex-wife side and used that situation against me … to create a void between my children and i … between my ex’s family and i …. continues to bad mouth me, particularly my children who are late teens now. Despite my horrendous treatment i became a loving Dad who hugged his kids and told them how much i loved them (in a genuine way) Contributed financially and was generous to them and put them first. Non of the things i got. Non of my existing family who i had a good relationship with now speak to me.

    I am left thinking what is wrong with me, i have been to my girls school practises and sports games … always. And been a great provider to my family, taking time off work to attend, and taking them on camping holidays. I cannot stand my mother and the horrendous things she says about family members, which i dont participate in. To cap things off, i havent seen my lovely children for 2.5 years, and my ex has always diminished me as a parent, and has said in mediation my girls dont want to know me. How i havent lost the plot continues to evade me. I can withstand a few drinks and love catching up with friends without being a tea totaller or drunk alchoholic. Yet my ex continues to harass me via lawyers, and the IRS, every six months, even when I pay 100% child support to her, on time, and never miss a payment or create any antagonism. She only ever wants money and doesn’t want me to have a relationship with my children.

    What a position to be in.

    I really have been feeling like not being here of late, and wonder just how long I will last.

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    • Hi, your story is heart-breaking. I am so sorry that you have had to experience so much trauma, and the fact that you grew up to be a loving father is a testament to your strength and resilience. However I am concerned about you because it is clear that you require support which I am unable to provide on this blog. I strongly recommend that you talk things over with someone who can, though, such as a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life.

      There are numerous online services available where you can speak anonymously with trained individuals. Consider reaching out to platforms like BetterHelp (http://www.betterhelp.com) or Talkspace (http://www.talkspace.com). These services offer professional counseling from licensed therapists. If you’re in immediate distress, please contact a crisis line in your country. They have people ready to talk to you right now.

      Please don’t go through this alone. There are people ready and willing to help.

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  2. Hi there! Use your Twitter advice quite a bit. Have narc mom. She’s 79 and I’m so heartbroken, but glad I know now. Also sober 4 1/2 yrs, and that’s why I started watching patterns that were riddles all my life!! I’m 56. Thanks!!

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    • Hi Kim, I am so sorry that you too had a narcissistic parent – I know what a nightmare that is. Glad that my tweets and blog have helped!
      Want you to know that although it might feel impossible at times, it IS possible to heal and to slowly undo the damage they did to us, so hang in there. Sending you a big hug and lots of love.

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  3. Hi Carla
    I sent you the TWTR pix for the DeGroat book.

    I have personal episodes, (too many); significant NPD chapters in extended family history… and (victim) encounters in the pastoral counseling environment.

    Permit me to thank you AND encourage you in your mission to set victims free from deceit, pain, and ongoing dysfunction.

    Valid email contact attached to this webpage comment.

    Be safe.
    S

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