Love Bombing – The Narcissist’s Trick to Keep You Hooked

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who made you feel like you were the most important person in the world? They shower you with compliments, and make you feel like you are the only one for them. This is known as love bombing.

Narcissists use this technique to keep their partners hooked and under their control. In this blog post, we will discuss what love bombing is, and how to identify if you are being love bombed by a narcissist. We will also provide tips on how to deal with this type of abuse.

What is love bombing?

Love bombing is a technique used by narcissists to keep their partners hooked and under their control. It involves showering the partner with compliments, gifts, and excessive attention. The narcissist’s goal is to make their partner feel special and desired, in order to gain their trust and dependency.

How to identify it

There are several signs that can indicate if you are being love bombed by a narcissist. The most obvious sign is an excessive amount of compliments and attention. If your partner is constantly telling you how amazing, smart, and beautiful you are, then they may be using love bombing tactics.

Another sign is if your partner is always trying to make all of your decisions for you. This can be a sign that they are trying to control you and gain power over you. If your partner seems to be too good to be true, then there may be something fishy going on. Be suspicious if they are showering you with gifts, compliments, and excessive attention.

How to deal with it

If you are experiencing love bombing from a narcissist, it is important to take action. Don’t let the narcissist manipulate you. Here are some tips for dealing with specific form of narcissistic abuse:

  • Don’t fall for the charm offensive. Remember that the narcissist is maliciously trying to manipulate your trust.
  • Get some distance from the abuser. This will help you to see the situation more objectively.
  • Talk to someone about what you are going through. It can be helpful to talk to someone who understands narcissistic abuse.
  • Document everything that is happening in the relationship. This can help you to have evidence if you decide to leave the relationship.
  • Seek professional help. If you are feeling overwhelmed by the situation, talking to a therapist can be very helpful.

You are not alone. If you are experiencing love bombing from a narcissist, there is help available. Talk to someone who understands narcissistic abuse, and get the support that you need.

For Further Reading:

The following are the most potent abusive tactics in the narcissist’s toolbox –

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2 thoughts on “Love Bombing – The Narcissist’s Trick to Keep You Hooked”

  1. Thank you for devoting a blog to this topic. I KNOW he used all of the tactics that makeup the very definition of “love bombing”, however, the 1 thing I’m struggling to really reconcile over is the narcissist portion you write abt how a man who sweeps you so swiftly away by love bombing, has a narcissist personality…the way he’s treated me, ever since finally suceeding in winning over my naturally highly untrusting/suspicious nature towards any extremely gifted at charming man, 2 mos I spent doing everything I could to run him off, turn him off &/or open gaping holes for him to easily walk away/take easy outs, has at times seemed to vacillate all across the emotional spectrum from being so kind & patient with my extremely hyper ADHD self (on 3 meds but am still always running on high), to where, since July 2021 thru present treating me highly punitively, ignoring all entirely, never ever responding to questions I may ask per text, to me, since 7/21, indeed assuming these toxic levels of narcisissm mixed with what feels like “I just don’t give a f—” attitudes in almost all things related to ME

    Last week he projected all of the spiteful venom & hatred I KNOW he WISHES he had the courage to standup to his very unstable borderline personality, bipolar disorder & narcissistic personality disorder’d hateful and male spousal abusing (physically) shaky wife. And that hurt. The words. I forgave inside my heart already (bc he sure as hell doesn’t give 1 damn whether I do or don’t, that is crystal clear to me now), but I will NEVER ever forget the words he wrote to me as we had a huge text argument all afternoon. I reread his words abt once a week so that when I’ve begun forgetting what he’d told me, I’m refreshed again in knowing he would actually treat me so disrespectfully as well as say such complete bald-faced accusatory lies & dishonorable words all to better, further dig the words’ daggers further into my heart & my backside…

    It’s just all so saddening but I simply mustn’t EVER forget those words he threw out at me, for fear it’d lead to my (possibly, since right now he’s determined there will never be an “us”..EVER.) crumbling my boundaries and falling back into those old familiar patterns?.

    Thanks again for blogging on this topic!

    – Jo

    • Dear Jo, I am so very, very sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. You deserve so much more than this. You deserve love and respect and peace. You are right to strengthen your resolve and to take a stand never to get back with him. Well done for prioritising yourself – hang in there and focus on your recovery. in the meantime, you are welcome to vent on my blog – we are all here to support each other 🙂


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