Last updated on October 23rd, 2024
Future faking is a manipulative technique that narcissists use to control their victims. They make promises about the future which they have no intention of keeping in order to keep their victims under their thumb.
In this blog post, I will discuss what future faking is and the signs you must look out for.
How does Future Faking Work?
Future faking involves making promises about the future which are never fulfilled.
The narcissist makes you believe that they love you and that you will be together forever. However they will then break up with you as soon as it suits them.
They may also make other promises like telling their victim that they will change. But of course, they never will.
Sometimes they promise to help their victim in some way. But tomorrow never comes.
They know how much these things mean to their victims so when they fail at keeping these promises on purpose, it hurts even more deeply than if they had simply forgotten about them altogether (which would still be bad enough).
Signs of Narcissistic Future Faking
There are many signs of narcissistic future faking, but one of the most common is when they promise something and then never follow through with it.
A narcissist may say that he or she will do something for you (like go on a date), but then never show up at all-or worse yet, they’ll get in touch just long enough to apologize profusely before disappearing again indefinitely!
Another sign would be if someone keeps making promises about spending time with you (“I love spending time with you!”) without actually following through with those plans.
Narcissists are also very good liars which makes them difficult to catch out in these lies.
Their words always seem sincere, even though we know deep down inside there’s no truth behind them.
The Impact on Victims
The consequences of being involved with a narcissist who uses future faking can be devastating.
Victims often feel used, manipulated, and worthless after the relationship ends.
They may also find it difficult to trust anyone else again after having their trust violated in this way by someone they loved and believed in.
Additionally, victims may struggle with feelings of abandonment, depression, and even post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD or CPTSD) as a result of the narcissistic abuse they experienced.
If you’re currently in a relationship with a narcissist and suspect that they are using future faking tactics on you, it’s important to seriously reconsider your relationship. You deserve to be with someone you can trust, and who wants to build a real future with you.
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Carla Corelli, a writer, advocate, and survivor of narcissistic abuse, draws from her own upbringing with a narcissistic father to shed light on psychological trauma. Fueled by her personal journey, she pursued a degree in psychology and has dedicated herself to shedding light on the complexities of narcissistic abuse.
With over fifteen years of experience in writing and advocating for survivors, Carla is deeply committed to providing support, education, and empowerment to those who have endured similar trauma. Through her articles, Carla aims to offer a compassionate space for healing and growth, while advocating for greater awareness and understanding of narcissistic abuse.
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