Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional and psychological abuse inflicted by individuals who have strong narcissistic traits, or who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
This type of abuse includes behaviors such as constant criticism, manipulation, belittling, gaslighting, and neglect, all designed to assert control and maintain power over the victim.
Often, the narcissistic abuser seeks to undermine the victim’s self-esteem and independence, leading to a toxic cycle of dependency and emotional harm. It’s crucial to recognize these signs and seek help if you find yourself in such a situation.
The following are some of the most potent abusive tactics in the narcissist’s toolbox –
Abuse by Proxy
Ambient Abuse
Divide and Conquer
Enmeshment
Fauxpology
Flying Monkeys
Future Faking
Gaslighting
Narcissistic Grooming
Love Bombing
Narcissist Discard
Narcissist Hoovering
Narcissistic Triangulation
Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome
Narcissistic FOG
Narcissistic Projection
Narcissistic Rage
Narcissistic Smear Campaign
Narcissistic Word Salad
Parental Alienation
If you grew up in a narcissistic family, you should also check out the following posts:
SoNM (Sons of Narcissistic Mothers)
SoNF (Sons of Narcissistic Fathers)
DoNF (Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers)
DoNM (Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers)
ACoNs (Adult Children of Narcissists)
Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: What You Need to Know
The Narcissistic Family Golden Child
The Narcissistic Family Scapegoat
The Narcissistic Parent and the Enabler
Narcissistic Family Roles: The Complicated Dynamics of Narcissistic Families
Breaking the Intergenerational Cycle of Family Abuse
Emotional Abuse as a Child Linked to Adult Chronic Pain
CAPDR – Child affected by parental relationship distress
Adverse Childhood Experiences and PTSD: What’s the Connection?
The Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences on Puberty
Learning how to Trust and Love after Adverse Childhood Experiences
Parentification: The Role of the Parentified Child in Narcissistic Families
What is Codependency and how to overcome it
Resilience – the ability to bounce back after adversity
Is the Golden Child destined to become a Narcissist?
Secrets and Shame: The Corrosive Impact of Family Secrets
How to Deal with a Narcissistic Sibling: Tips for Navigating Family Drama
Going through the stages of grief for my lost childhood
10 Symptoms of Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers
10 Symptoms of Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
The Narcissist Mother – How to Identify and Deal with this Personality Type
How to Deal with a Narcissistic Mother-in-Law: Protect Your Relationship
Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers – Growing Up with a Narcissistic Mother
You might also want to check out the following posts about the impact of narcissistic abuse on victims and advice on how to start the road to recovery. –
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
Anxiety
Child affected by Parental Relationship Distress (CAPRD)
Codependent or codependency
Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD or C-PTSD)
Flashbacks
Hypervigilance
Learned Helplessness
Linen Cupboard Metaphor
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Negative Self-Talk
Parentification
PTSD – Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
Trauma Bond
Trauma Trigger
7 Types of Narcissistic Abuse with Practical Examples
The 10 Stages of Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
8 Ways Narcissists Get Worse With Age
Resilience – the ability to bounce back after adversity
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