The Horror Of Being The Narcissistic Family Scapegoat

The Horror Of Being The Narcissistic Family Scapegoat

When I was a child I knew that my father did not love me. I could tell that he adored my brother, but as soon as he looked at me his face hardened and his eyes became slits full of hate. Initially I thought it was because I was not enough. Not good enough. Not … Read more

Breaking the Intergenerational Cycle of Family Abuse

Charlie Tyrell about breaking the intergenerational cycle of abuse

The intergenerational cycle of family abuse is a pattern of violence, abuse, and neglect that is passed down from one generation to the next. This cycle can occur within families, as well as between intimate partners. The cycle of abuse often begins with one person exerting power and control over another. This may be through … Read more

What Happens after a Narcissist Maliciously Destroys Our Self-Image?

self image

How do you see yourself in your mind’s eye? Do you think of yourself as kind and likeable, or generous and caring? Are you pretty, fat, thin, sporty or curvy? Do you like yourself? Are you easy to love? All these factors, and many more, are part of your self-image. This mental picture that we … Read more

Narcissists Mess With Your Mind

Narcissists mess with your mind and make you doubt your sanity.

One of the most debilitating aspects of narcissistic abuse is the fact that narcissists mess with your mind and make you doubt your own sanity. Victims of narcissistic abuse are constantly walking on eggshells but cannot quite put their finger on why. The constant gaslighting and all the lies and manipulation are draining and the … Read more

Thank God for My Tribe!

my supportive tribe of friends

Growing up in an abusive family seriously damaged my self-esteem. It made me feel worthless and unimportant. My friends, however, made me feel loved and accepted. They helped me to see myself in a new light and to believe in myself. I am forever grateful to them for their support.

Christmas with a Narcissist

Spending Christmas with a Narcissist

Christmas, we are told, is the most wonderful time of the year. Everyone gathers with their family, eating and drinking and playing games in front of a roaring fire. It sounds lovely, does it not? However when your happy family gathering includes a narcissist, then Christmas becomes a minefield. In my case the narcissist was … Read more

My Father was a Narcissist

my father was a narcissist

When I first realised that my father was a narcissist and that his personality disorder was the underlying cause of all the inexplicably horrible things that happened to me as a child, I cried tears of relief.