Inside the Mind of a Female Narcissist

Last updated on October 25th, 2024

Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder that affects both men and women. However, there are some key differences between the genders when it comes to the signs and symptoms of the disorder.

In this blog post, we will take a closer look at narcissistic personality disorder in women. We will discuss the warning signs you need to be aware of and provide tips for how to deal with this condition if you think someone you know might be suffering from it.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Women vs Men

Men are more susceptible to Narcissistic Personality Disorder than women, according to a meta-analysis of 355 journal articles and other studies dating back 31 years conducted by a team of researchers led by Emily Grijalva, an assistant professor of organization and human resources at the University of Buffalo School of Management.

The researchers also divided their dataset into three distinct subcategories of narcissistic behaviour – grandiosity and exhibitionism, leadership and authority, and entitlement – in order to further illustrate the difference between how narcissistic personality disorder presents in men and women.

1. Grandiosity and Exhibitionism

When it comes to grandiose and exhibitionist behaviours, men are more likely to display narcissistic behaviour than women. This is because these behaviours are typically seen as more socially acceptable for men.

For example, a man who is always bragging about his accomplishments or trying to show off his wealth is exhibiting narcissistic behaviour. However, this behaviour is often seen as being ambitious or confident, which are qualities that are highly valued in our society.

In contrast, a woman who behaves in this way is more likely to be seen as arrogant or self-absorbed. This is because these behaviours are not typically seen as being socially acceptable for women.

2. Leadership and Authority

When it comes to narcissistic behaviour related to leadership and authority, there is again a difference between how men and women typically behave.

Men who display narcissistic behaviour in this area are often seen as being assertive and in control. This type of behaviour is often rewarded in our society, which can reinforce the narcissistic behaviours.

In contrast, women who display narcissistic behaviour related to leadership and authority are often seen as being bossy or overbearing.

This type of behaviour is often not tolerated in our society, which can lead to the narcissistic behaviours being repressed by the woman in question.

3. Entitlement

When it comes to narcissistic entitlement behaviours, there is again a difference between how men and women typically behave.

Men who display narcissistic entitlement behaviours are often seen as being entitled and demanding. This type of behaviour is often tolerated in our society, as it is seen as a sign of power and success.

In contrast, women who display narcissistic entitlement behaviours are often seen as being high-maintenance and demanding. This type of behaviour is often not tolerated in our society, as it is seen as a sign of weakness and insecurity.

Common Signs and Symptoms of NPD in Women

Understanding the signs of NPD can help in identifying and addressing the disorder effectively. Here are some common symptoms seen in women with NPD:

Exaggerated sense of self-importance: Women with NPD often believe they are superior to others and expect to be recognized as such, even without achievements that warrant this.

Fantasies of unlimited success and power: They might constantly fantasize about having immense success, power, beauty, or ideal love.

Need for excessive admiration: A continuous requirement for admiration and validation from others is a hallmark of NPD.

Entitlement: A sense of entitlement to special treatment and automatic compliance with their expectations.

Exploitation of others: Using others to achieve personal goals without any consideration for their feelings or well-being.

Lack of empathy: Difficulty recognizing or identifying with the feelings and needs of others.

Envy and jealousy: An underlying sense of envy towards others or belief that others are envious of them.

Arrogant behavior: Exhibiting haughty, disdainful, or patronizing attitudes.

Support and Treatment Options

Addressing NPD requires a comprehensive approach that includes:

Education: Educating family and friends about NPD can foster a supportive environment for the affected individual.

Therapy: Psychotherapy, particularly cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can help individuals understand their behavior patterns and develop healthier relationships.

Support groups: Joining support groups can provide a sense of community and understanding.

Medication: While there are no specific medications for NPD, associated symptoms like depression or anxiety can be managed with medication.

Conclusion

Narcissistic personality disorder is a serious mental disorder that can have devastating effects on individuals and their relationships.

Although it occurs more frequently in men, women are not immune to its effects.

If you think you or someone you know may be suffering from NPD, it’s important to seek professional help. Look out for the warning signs we’ve listed above, and don’t hesitate to reach out for assistance if you need it.

Carla Corelli

Carla Corelli, a writer, advocate, and survivor of narcissistic abuse, draws from her own upbringing with a narcissistic father to shed light on psychological trauma. Fueled by her personal journey, she pursued a degree in psychology and has dedicated herself to shedding light on the complexities of narcissistic abuse.
With over fifteen years of experience in writing and advocating for survivors, Carla is deeply committed to providing support, education, and empowerment to those who have endured similar trauma. Through her articles, Carla aims to offer a compassionate space for healing and growth, while advocating for greater awareness and understanding of narcissistic abuse.
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